I’ve always taken pride in being a solid individual. A solid friend. A solid partner. A solid daughter. A solid sibling. A solid parent. I almost used “real”, but it’s a term used so loosely these days that it’s lost a bit of its je ne sais quoi.
There is so much pretending these days that it’s almost impossible to separate the real from the fake. How many people do you know act one way in one setting but are completely different in another? And you’re like, “sis/bro is that you?”
I used to adjust, and at times suppress the things I loved about myself to fit in. To gain access into the “in” crowd. Please hear me, if at anytime you have to change, adjust, or alter who you are to gain a “seat at the table”, sis, that ain’t your table! The day I stopped trying to change my quirks and the things that made me ME, was the day things began to change. Doors began to open. Opportunities presented themselves.
My unique blueprint looks something like this...I’m very strong willed with a hint of stubborn. I speak fluent sarcasm and don’t mind telling you exactly how I feel. I’m sensitive and passionate about things that matter. I love being black. I love being a woman. I love being a mother. I love being a committed partner. I don’t follow trends, nor do I follow crowds. I have a unique fashion sense, if I like it, I wear it. I’m frugal. I love my grey hair and I don’t dye it, and it’s not because I’m allergic. I’m awkward. I’m an introverted extrovert. I am organized chaos. I’m strong and sometimes I’m weak. I cuss, a lot. I’m somewhat of a freak, depending on the day of the week. I hold grudges (fight me). If it doesn’t interest me, I lose focus. I wear my hair natural because I want to and I love it. I don’t shave during the winter (it keeps me warm). I like sugar in my grits (fight me).
The day we accept individuals for who they are, without judgement is the day we open ourselves up to a whole new world. When it comes to Jazmine, what you see, is what you get!
Until next time…💛