When did society become so comfortable with cheating? I will never understand this logic. I was raised by a generation of woman who stayed with their men through everything. This included cheating.
I don’t watch the likes of reality shows like the Housewives, Love & Hip Hop, or the many others. Quite honestly, as a black woman raising black children, it’s disheartening and embarrassing. I’ve never understood how an individual could ever be comfortable with the person they’ve committed to or married, being with someone other than them while they are together. I’ve always heard the saying that all men cheat. Wrong, all men don’t cheat the same way all women don’t.
Cheating isn’t always sexual. Growing up Christian I always heard the justification of “for better or worse, or “what God has joined together, let no man put asunder.” Umm I don’t think that meant infidelity. Well let me make it personal, not in my eyes. I believe that when a person is comfortable and so forgiving of a cheating partner, somewhere deep down inside there is a lack of self-worth and self respect. I also believe there is a fear of embarrassment and a tarnished image. Also fear of becoming the poster child of of a failed relationship/marriage. And one of the biggest, making children the victims of divorced parents. That one is huge!
I don’t care what anyone says, after a person cheats, things will never be the same. You can go to years of therapy, cry on a million altars, and pray for the gift of forgetfulness, but the memory and the scars will remain. You will never look at that person the same.
All of that was true for me. I was a victim of cheating, and the person my partner cheated with, was my friend, or so I thought. I can remember the confrontation like it was yesterday. I can also remember feeling like it was my fault. How many can relate? When a person cheats you immediately ask yourself the questions, what did I do wrong? Am I not enough? But there was an issue with my self-worth. I didn’t know that I deserved more. Cheating is always a choice. In my mind, there has never been and will never be an excuse for cheating when there is always an option to leave.
Facts, you don’t have to stay in a broken relationship/marriage. You and your children will be okay. Know that you are and will always be enough.
Until next time…❤️